It is hard to just casually write a post today about how my so-called marriage deteriorated because I was served with divorce papers yesterday. I'm not upset about the divorce. I welcome that. It is his unbelievably retarded accusations with reference to our son that drives me insane. He is claiming that I will not foster a good relationship with his son meanwhile, all he has ever done was give him a hug and kiss before he goes to bed. I've been with my dad since August and I have freely allowed him to take our son any time he asks. However, he can't take care of him alone. He needed to take him to his mommy's house the two times that he took him.
He is incapable of caring for his son on his own. Whenever I left our son with him, he would do the very absolute basics. On many occasions, when my son is sick, I would call to check on him throughout the day and my husband would be out in the garage smoking a cigarette. I would ask where my son was and he'd say he's in his high chair watching TV - every time, several times during the day. Then I would come home and find my husband sitting in the garage smoking and on his iPhone while my son is in his high chair. This is every time he stays home with him. I don't know if he was in there all day or it is just coincidence that EVERY time I called and EVERY time I come home, he happens to be in the high chair, but it is hard to come up with any other conclusion than to assume he keeps him in his high chair all day.
There was this one time that my son was beginning to feel better but I felt he could use one more day of rest and since my husband was off that day, I asked him to stay home with him. I went to work and it was decided that they would meet me at Costco that evening after work. Since I am responsible for taking care of every single thing when it comes to the house, including preparing my son's dinner and lunch as well as bathe him and get him ready for bed. My dear husband used to literally disappear upstairs once I came home. So, throughout the day, I asked him many times to please give our son a bath. I must have been the biggest nag that day. I know that I felt like a nag and even reprimanded myself for being one and that I should definitely give him the benefit of the doubt. I had appealed to him saying that after spending the evening in Costco, I won't have too much time to cook, feed, prepare lunch, put away the food, as well as giving the bath so that he can get to bed at a reasonable hour. Because he wasn't feeling well, we had skipped the bath the night before so he really needed a bath. When I met them at Costco, my son ran toward me and I picked him up. The first thing I noticed is that he was wearing the same clothes that he was wearing the night before. He had fallen asleep in sweatpants and a t-shirt, which he was never changed out of, which means he didn't get a bath. I got annoyed but whatever. Then, as I picked my son up, I got a distinct whiff of urine. I checked to see if he was wet and he wasn't. I asked if he had an accident that day and both of them said that he hadn't. I couldn't understand why then he smelled like urine. The smell was overwhelming throughout the shopping experience. I kept asking the same question over and over. Did he get some pee on his pants while he went to the bathroom? I was told no but nothing made any sense. I asked him what time he woke up? Apparently they both stayed asleep until 11 am. My son had awakened at around 8, but that was too early for my husband so he plopped him in bed next to him and they both fell asleep again until 11. He didn't take him to the bathroom or anything - just plopped him in bed next to him. I assumed he must have had an accident on my bed and my husband just didn't notice and 4 hours is enough to have that pee dry up. I was livid. He left him in his pee stained clothes all day and didn't give him a bath as I had asked. He barked at me to stop talking about it because he felt sooooo baaaad and that he was feeling guilty that he didn't notice and that he didn't take him to the bathroom in the morning. I told him that he should feel guilty and dropped it. Then, when we went home, I took my son up to give him a bath and change him immediately as well as check on my bed. My bed was totally clean - nothing wet, nothing that smelled like urine - nothing! I went to my son's bed and there it was - the whole sheet smelled. When I changed him out of his clothes for the bath, his white undershirt was stained in a yellow hue up until the neck and he had a light rash throughout his whole body. Essentially, my son had an accident while he was sleeping, which woke him up at 8, he went to his father, who ignored his wet clothes and his need to change, and just plopped him in bed so that he, the adult, the father, the supposed caregiver, to continue sleeping.
Yes, he should have full custody of our son! He is perfectly capable and does a great job. Yes, he should have full custody of our son because my son gives him a hug and kiss and shows him his toys when he sees him. Oh yeah! That's exactly why he should have full custody. He's such a good father!
I hate him.
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